So I am at the end stages of a divorce decree and I am telling my attorney about the troubles I have been having. He gave me some information and then gave me this to read. I thought it was good enough to share.
THIS IS NOT MY OWN WRITING. I DON'T TAKE ANY CREDIT FOR IT!!!
Please read and enjoy.
Don’t Argue with Napoleon
By: Gregory Gudger
So you happen to be strolling down the street one sunny day and you see this fellow
standing on the corner; he’s got on a buttoned-down trench coat with his right hand inserted at
chest level. He wears a baseball cap on his head, turned sideways, bib extended to the left. One
foot is propped up on a fire hydrant, as he carefully surveys the passing traffic.
As you begin to walk past him, he turns to look at you and says, “I’m Napoleon.”
“Ok, fella...whatever you say.”
“No,.. really,” he continues. “I’m Napoleon.”
“This is a free country...you can be who you want to be.”
“That’s right, and I’m Napoleon.”
Out of some sense of egoism, or a desire to show how smart you are, you explain,”not to
mention that Napoleon is dead. Has been for some time, like 1821 or so, in exile on the Island of
“But I’m right here and, you said it yourself, I’m in a free country.“
“Man, you are frickin’ crazy.”
“Look...I know how much some people may admire him and his military genius, which might not
have been too far from insanity, come to think of it, but you are NOT Napoleon.”
“Bullcrap! I got my hand in my coat, my hat is on sideways, and I’m in charge.”
“Right...a bicorne with a Yankee’s logo.”
For the next hour, you share your knowledge...your facts...about the real Napoleon to
convince him that he is not the genuine article.
My question is this: who’s the crazy one here?
Too often we waste time engaging in conversations to convert others to our way of thinking-our
position-even when it is clear that the basis of their thinking is flawed. Our flaw, borne of selfcenteredness,
is that we have to be right; we have to get others to follow our lead as though we
are The Christ looking for disciples.
If you make a good faith effort to correct someone, especially if you care for them, and they
remain resistant to your logic, let go and let them be. Give them the right to learn on their own, to
be who they want to be. Rather than get emotionally tied up with something that is wrong, and
maybe take the next step to start judging people, the flaw is in you. Do what you have to do with
the best information you have and not get caught up in that which does nothing but sap your
emotional and intellectual energy that you can use to make something better.
JUST FOOD FOR THOUGHT!!
***AGAIN I DID NOT WRITE THIS BUT WISHED TO SHARE IT WITH YOU.***